In 2011, 109 year old Holocaust survivor Alice Herz-Sommer was interviewed and asked what did she attribute her long life too. She answered “I See Beauty Everywhere”.
Your relationship, like your life, needs nourishing and cultivating if it is to have a long life. Listen to Alice’s words and see the beauty in your lover and your relationship. In the small things: the way they are, the way they look, the way they behave, what they say and do. Look for their beauty in the everyday, in the mundane and not just in the lovemaking (that will follow).
Perhaps most of all, look for the beauty when they are not their best: when they are down or angry or sad.... look for the beauty everywhere, in your whole life, in your relationship, in your lover and in yourself.